This week we need to continue working with the model and learn why we do emotional eating. Digging into our brains to understand what we are thinking is STRONG work but so worth it!
Let’s start by looking at the instruction manuals we carry around for ourselves, all the people we know, the pets we live with, the circumstances we encounter, even the things we have or want.
What’s a manual you ask?
Imagine it as thick binder in your head, you know, the one that outlines exactly how other people should treat you, how your job should be every workday, how the world and everything in it is supposed to be.
Our manuals contain all the stories we have written for how everything outside of us is SUPPOSED to operate. The world according to us!
Let’s use Valentine’s Day as an example. If it is written in your manual you believe in the marketing of FTD, Hallmark, and Hershey’s Chocolate then our husbands and boyfriends should be running out and getting a dozen red roses, a sweetie card, candy, and reserving a candlelight dinner with us every February 14th. How many of you expect this and don’t get it?
How would this scenario make you feel? Probably frustrated and angry? NOT happy and loving! Here are examples of other storylines in our manuals that don’t generate positive emotions either:
• The manual mothers have for their kids: they won’t cry, get tired, get sick on vacation, talk back, always sleep through the night, get stellar grades, won’t crash the car, never get emotional, always ask our advice, be respectful toward us and on and on.
• The manual we have for our pets includes: no shitting in the house, no jumping, no barking, no clawing the furniture, no making a mess eating, no need for walking when we are tired, no hair ball barfing, no shedding hair in the house, and on and on.
• The manual we have for work may include: no long days, people will come in and help when their room is done, my room will finish early, my patients will all cooperate under anesthesia, the supplies and instruments will all be picked 100% correctly, the schedule will run as it is written, the equipment will never break, our patients will do all their post-op instructions perfectly and on and on.
These sound ridiculous when written down but ask yourself how many of these ring true?
The point is, these manuals live in the dark recesses of our mind, no one else generally knows they are there, NOT EVEN OURSELVES!
The stories in our manuals are our default thinking, running undetected in our mind all the time. They are the thoughts driving our emotions, actions and ultimately the results we get in our lives. It is like we are following the WAZE app directions and drive into the lake because it told us too and we wonder how we ended up in a lake!
Our weight loss manual has thinking in there that is going to hold us back and keep us from evolving into the person we want to be.
Pull out your manual, open it to any page and start working on identifying that thinking. Decide if that STORYLINE is helping you or holding you back.